I worry that by losing my temper so much and being so harsh and yelling so much that, by example, I will have taught my daughters to be that way, and I'm now constantly telling them not to do that.

What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. pg 29

I sort of feel like people are not that honest about their own parenting. Take any teenage household; tell me there is not yelling and conflict.

To be honest, I know that a lot of Asian parents are secretly shocked and horrified by many aspects of Western parenting.

The fact is that Chinese parents can do things that would seem unimaginable-even legally actionable-to Westerners. Chinese mothers can say to their daughters, "Hey fatty-lose some weight." By contrast, Western parents have to tiptoe around the issue, talking in terms of "health" and never ever mentioning the f-word, and their kids still end up in therapy for eating disorders and negative self image.

Tiger parenting is all about raising independent, creative, courageous kids. In America today, there's a dangerous tendency to romanticize creativity in a way that may undermine it.

Don't assume your child is weak. If you, the parent, assume that they can't take anymore, what kind of signal are you sending them?