What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. pg 29

Most things are difficult at the beginning and they become fun, something you love, only after you've worked at them.

I do believe that when your child does poorly on a test, your first step should not necessarily be to attack the teacher or the school's curriculum. It should be to look at the idea that, maybe, the child didn't work hard enough.

I do play tennis, but I don't really like competition. I'm supposed to be so intense, but I hate competition.

I say 'I love you' to my daughters every day.

The Chinese model calls for giving your kids very little choice - and I've come to see that you can go too far with that. On the other hand, I also believe that Western parents sometimes give their young kids too much choice.

Never complain or make excuses. If something seems unfair, just prove yourself by working twice as hard and being twice as good.