I do play tennis, but I don't really like competition. I'm supposed to be so intense, but I hate competition.

Both of my girls have very high self-esteem because they were both able to master certain things; I should think that's good for their confidence.

Unlike Western parents, reminding my child of Lord Voldemort didn't bother me.

I was raised, myself, by extremely strict but also extremely loving Chinese immigrant parents. To this day, I believe that their having high expectations for me, coupled with love, was the greatest gift that anyone's ever given me. And so that's why, even though my husband is not Chinese, I try to raise my own two daughters the same way.

Westerners often laud their children as 'talented' or 'gifted', while Asian parents highlight the importance of hard work. And in fact, research performed by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck has found that the way parents offer approval affects the way children perform, even the way they feel about themselves.

The Chinese model calls for giving your kids very little choice - and I've come to see that you can go too far with that. On the other hand, I also believe that Western parents sometimes give their young kids too much choice.

Don't assume your child is weak. If you, the parent, assume that they can't take anymore, what kind of signal are you sending them?