Be modest, be humble, be simple.Make sure you come in first so that you have something to be humble about.

To be honest, I know that a lot of Asian parents are secretly shocked and horrified by many aspects of Western parenting.

When I was little, my parents really only wanted me to be a scientist or a doctor; they had never even heard of law school. I think even these days if you were to tell your mother you want to be a fashion designer, or an artist or a writer, a lot of Asian parents would be alarmed because they don't think that's a secure career.

Western parents worry a lot about their children's self-esteem. But as a parent, one of the worst things you can do for your child's self-esteem is to let them give up. On the flip side, there's nothing better for building confidence than learning you can do something you thought you couldn't.

My goal as a parent is to prepare you for the future, not to make you like me.

What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you're good at it. pg 29

I do believe that when your child does poorly on a test, your first step should not necessarily be to attack the teacher or the school's curriculum. It should be to look at the idea that, maybe, the child didn't work hard enough.