Be modest, be humble, be simple.Make sure you come in first so that you have something to be humble about.

The fact is that Chinese parents can do things that would seem unimaginable-even legally actionable-to Westerners. Chinese mothers can say to their daughters, "Hey fatty-lose some weight." By contrast, Western parents have to tiptoe around the issue, talking in terms of "health" and never ever mentioning the f-word, and their kids still end up in therapy for eating disorders and negative self image.

I do play tennis, but I don't really like competition. I'm supposed to be so intense, but I hate competition.

Everything I do as a mother builds on a foundation of love and compassion.

Never complain or make excuses. If something seems unfair, just prove yourself by working twice as hard and being twice as good.

When I was little, my parents really only wanted me to be a scientist or a doctor; they had never even heard of law school. I think even these days if you were to tell your mother you want to be a fashion designer, or an artist or a writer, a lot of Asian parents would be alarmed because they don't think that's a secure career.

When my kids wanted to give up on things, I wouldn't let them, and those are lifelong lessons.