I wanted my children to have the best combination: American circumstances and Chinese character. How could I know these things do not mix?

Don't think too much. That makes you believe you have more choices than you do. Then you mind becomes confused.

When you already believe something, how can you suddenly stop? When you are a loyal friend, how can you no longer be one?

And now I have to stop. Because every time I remember this, I have to cry a little by myself. I don't know why something that made me so happy then feels so sad now. Maybe that is the way it is with the best memories.

That is the nature of endings, it seems. They never end. When all the missing pieces of your life are found, put together with glue of memory and reason, there are more pieces to be found.

You must think for yourself, what you must do. If someone tells you, then you are not trying. -An-mei

People think it's a terrible tragedy when somebody has Alzheimer's. But in my mother's case, it's different. My mother has been unhappy all her life. For the first time in her life, she's happy.