I was raised the Chinese way: I was taught to desire nothing, to swallow other people's misery, to eat my own bitterness. And even though I taught my daughter the opposite, still she came out the same way! Maybe it is because she was born to me and she was born a girl. And I was born to my mother and I was born a girl. All of us are like stairs, one step after another, going up and down, but all going the same way.

Isn't hate merely the result of wounded love?

But I will win and give her my spirit, because this is the way a mother loves her daughter. -Ying Ying

In America nobody says you have to keep the circumstances somebody else gives you.

I did not lose myself all at once.

I think books were my salvation, they saved me from being miserable.

Yesterday my daughter said to me, 'My marriage is falling apart.' And now all she can do is watch it falling.