You write a book and you hope somebody will go out and pay $24.95 for what you've just said. I think books were my salvation. Books saved me from being miserable.
Amy TanYou have to be your own person. You can't let people's opinions determine how you think about yourself. There's a difference between identity and self-identity.
Amy TanYou can't have intentions without consequences. The question is, who pays for the consequences? Saving fish from drowning. Same thing. Whoโs saved? Whoโs not?
Amy TanI thought I was clever enough to write as well as these people and I didn't realize that there is something called originality and your own voice.
Amy TanI was raised the Chinese way: I was taught to desire nothing, to swallow other people's misery, to eat my own bitterness. And even though I taught my daughter the opposite, still she came out the same way! Maybe it is because she was born to me and she was born a girl. And I was born to my mother and I was born a girl. All of us are like stairs, one step after another, going up and down, but all going the same way.
Amy TanAnd then it occurs to me. They are frightened. In me, they see their own daughters, just as ignorant, just as unmindful of all the truths and hopes they have brought to America. They see daughters who grow impatient when their mothers talk in Chinese, who think they are stupid when they explain things in fractured English. They see that joy and luck do not mean the same to their daughters, that to these closed American-born minds "joy luck" is not a word, it does not exist. They see daughters who will bear grandchildren born without any connecting hope passed from generation to generation.
Amy Tan