Why do you think you are missing something you never had?

Yesterday my daughter said to me, 'My marriage is falling apart.' And now all she can do is watch it falling.

Even if I had expected it, even if I had known what I was going to do with my life, it would have knocked the wind out of me. When something that violent hits you, you can't help but lose your balance and fall. And after you pick yourself up, you realize you can't trust anybody to save you- not your husband, not your mother, not God. So what can you do to stop yourself from tilting and falling all over again?

I learned to forgive myself, and that enabled me to forgive my mother as a person.

I have survivor skills. Some of that is superficial - what I present to people outwardly - but what makes people resilient is the ability to find humour and irony in situations that would otherwise overpower you.

We all hate moral ambiguity in some sense, and yet it is also absolutely necessary. In writing a story, it is the place where I begin.

Only two kinds of daughters, she shouted in Chinese. Those who are obedient and those who follow their own mind!