There is also somehow the idea that this gay thing is all just about indulgence in carnal pleasure. When I was twenty and felt that nobody could know I was gay, I was having sex with strangers in public parks. I don't think it was evil exactly, but it wasn't so great either. There was nobody particularly benefiting from it, except, I suppose, to the extent that it gave some pleasure to me and perhaps whomever I was with.
Andrew SolomonI think you can't deny that because the cochlear implant exists, the signing world is shrinking.
Andrew SolomonI believe that organized religion is an ornament to the truth, and that aesthetics are part of its power.
Andrew SolomonOne has to weigh all of one's values always in relative terms. On the upside, you get people who are not acting on their homosexual attraction, who are avoiding the sin of practicing homosexuality. On the downside, you have destroyed marriages, traumatized children, and dead people who have taken their own lives.
Andrew SolomonI have always believed in trying to be a good person and giving to the world, and treating others in a just, kind, merciful way.
Andrew SolomonI don't believe that there is anyone of faith whose faith would not be strengthened by those experiences of family.
Andrew SolomonListen to the people who love you. Believe that they are worth living for even when you don't believe it. Seek out the memories depression takes away and project them into the future. Be brave; be strong; take your pills. Exercise because it's good for you even if every step weighs a thousand pounds. Eat when food itself disgusts you. Reason with yourself when you have lost your reason.
Andrew Solomon