I grew up feeling that to be gay was a tragedy. I didn't grow up thinking that it was morally wrong, but I grew up thinking that it would make me marginal, prevent me from having children, and quite possibly prevent me from having a meaningful long relationship. It seemed that this condition would leave me with a vastly reduced life.

It is easy to keep secrets by being honest in an ironic tone of voice.

Despair is part of love.

Listen to the people who love you. Believe that they are worth living for even when you don't believe it.

We don't seek the painful experiences that hew our identities, but we seek our identities in the wake of painful experiences.

I can see the beauty of glass objects fully at the moment when they slip from my hand

A large proportion of my best friends are a little bit crazy. ... I try to be cautious with my friends who are too sane. Depression is itself destructive, and it breeds destructive impulses: I am easily disappointed in people who don't get it.