When you feel like this isn't your business, get out of the business.
Wong Kar Wai is a very intense character, very personable, and I believe in general he does not like and he would not want his actors to show their true looks and their true personality on screen.
I am classified as an idol in Hong Kong and in Asia.
Before you do anything, you need to know if it's right or wrong.
Actually, I look the same in real life as I do in the movies.
Don't wait. If it's not right, move on.