The selection of leadership must follow practical considerations. Maybe I look at things too pessimistically?

Children usually do not blame themselves for getting lost.

Create around one at least a small circle where matters are arranged as one wants them to be.

We are aware only of the empty space in the forest, which only yesterday was filled with trees.

The horrors of war, pale beside the loss of a mother

Why do we go around acting as though everything was friendship and reliability when basically everything everywhere is full of sudden hate and ugliness?

It is only when parental feelings are ineffective or too ambivalent or when the mother's emotions are temporarily engaged elsewhere that children feel lost.