You can change the world with a hot bath, if you sink into it from a place of knowing that you are worth profound care, even when you're dirty and rattled.

Life is really pretty tricky, and there's a lot of loss, and the longer you stay alive, the more people you lose whom you actually couldn't live without.

I don't have very sophisticated taste in music. I listen to a lot of folk music. I like reggae.

You have to make mistakes to find out who you aren’t.

Peace is joy at rest. Joy is peace on its feet. quoting her pastor in Salon, April 25, 2003

I never had a particularly strong craving to procreate, except for earlier fantasies of wanting to be Marmee in Little Women.

And my fear of failure has been lifelong and deep. If you are what you do- and I think my parents may have accidentally given me this idea- and you do poorly, what then? It’s over; you’re wiped out. All those prophecies you heard in the dark have come true, and people can see the real you, see what a schmendrick you are, what a fraud.