Anytime you have a negative feeling toward anyone, you're living in an illusion. There's something seriously wrong with you. You're not seeing reality. Something inside of you has to change. But what do we generally do when we have a negative feeling? "He is to blame, she is to blame. She's got to change." No! The world's all right. The one who has to change is you.
Anthony de MelloIt's only when you become love - in other words, when you have dropped your illusions and attachments - that you will "know." As you identify less and less with the "me," you will be more at ease with everybody and with everything.
Anthony de MelloThe poor think they will be happy when they become rich. The rich think they will be happy when they are rid of their ulcers.
Anthony de MelloBefore enlightenment, I used to be depressed; after enlightenment, I continue to be depressed.
Anthony de Mellothe tragedy of an attachment is that if its object is not attained it causes unhappiness. But if it is attained, it does not cause happiness โ it merely causes a flash of pleasure followed by weariness, and it is always accompanied, of course, by the anxiety that you may lose the object of your attachment.
Anthony de Mello