Anytime you have a negative feeling toward anyone, you're living in an illusion. There's something seriously wrong with you. You're not seeing reality. Something inside of you has to change. But what do we generally do when we have a negative feeling? "He is to blame, she is to blame. She's got to change." No! The world's all right. The one who has to change is you.
Anthony de MelloLoneliness is not cured by human company. Loneliness is cured by contact with reality.
Anthony de MelloHappiness is not something you acquire; love is not something you produce; love is not something you have; love is something that has you.
Anthony de MelloAs soon as you look at the world through an ideology, you are finished. No reality fits ideology.
Anthony de Mello