When you cling, life is destroyed; when you hold on to anything, you cease to live.
Anthony de MelloYou are never in love with anyone. You're only in love with your prejudiced and hopeful idea of that person.
Anthony de MelloAnytime you have a negative feeling toward anyone, you're living in an illusion. There's something seriously wrong with you. You're not seeing reality. Something inside of you has to change. But what do we generally do when we have a negative feeling? "He is to blame, she is to blame. She's got to change." No! The world's all right. The one who has to change is you.
Anthony de Mello