Self-care is not about self-indulgence , it is about self-preservati on.

Battling racism and battling heterosexism and battling apartheid share the same urgency inside me as battling cancer.

There are many lesbians and gay men trapped by their fear into silence and invisibility, and they exist in a dim valley of terror wearing nooses of conformity.

Attend me, hold me in your muscular flowering arms, protect me from throwing any part of myself away.

Anger, used, does not destroy. Hatred does.

Sadomasochism is an institutionalized celebration of dominant/subordinate relationships. And, it prepares us either to accept subordination or to enforce dominance. Even in play, to affirm that the exertion of power over powerlessness is erotic, is empowering, is to set the emotional and social stage for the continuation of that relationship, politically, socially, and economically.

What I most regretted were my silences. Of what had I ever been afraid?