Few people who are hit once by someone they love respond in the way they might to a singular physical assault by a stranger.

In a culture of domination, preoccupation with victimage is inevitable.

We all may have prejudices, but we're not all part of a system that reinforces, reinvents and reaffirms itself every day of our lives, systemically.

Like desire, language disrupts, refuses to be contained within boundaries.

One of the most subversive institutions in the United States is the public library.

Solidarity is not the same as support. To experience solidarity, we must have a community of interests, shared beliefs and goals around which to unite, to build Sisterhood. Support can be occasional. It can be given and just as easily withdrawn. Solidarity requires sustained, ongoing commitment.

Giving generously in romantic relationships, and in all other bonds, means recognizing when the other person needs our attention. Attention is an important resource.