If only one party in the relationship is working to create love, to create the space of emotional connection, the dominator model remains in place and the relationship just becomes a site for continuous power struggle.

I don't have issues around how I'm identified.

Reviewing the literature on love I noticed how few writers, male or female, talk about the impact of patriarchy, the way in which male domination of women and children stands in the ways of love.

Within the new self-help books for women, patriarachy and male domination are rarely identified as forces that lead to the oppression, exploitation, and domination of women. Instead, these books suggest that individual relationships between men and women can be changed solely by women making the right choices.

Intersectionality allow us to focus on what is most important at a given point in time.

I think it's crazy for us to think that people don't understand what's being foregrounded in their lives at a given point in time.

Knowledge rooted in experience shapes what we value and as a consequence how we know what we know as well as how we use what we know.