My work is mostly influenced by the concrete circumstances of our daily lives.

There will be no mass-based feminist movement as long as feminist ideas are understood only by a well-educated few.

Do not expect to receive the love from someone else you do not give yourself.

Both men and women remain in dysfunctional, loveless relationships when it is materially opportune.

When we work with love we renew the spirit; that renewal is an act of self-love, it nurtures our growth.

Fluidity means that our black identities are constantly changing as we respond to circumstances in our families and communities of origin, and as we interact with a wider world.

This fear of maleness that they inspire estranges men from every female in their lives to greater or lesser degrees, and men feel the loss. Ultimately, one of the emotional costs of allegiance to patriarchy is to be seen as unworthy of trust. If women and girls in patriarchal culture are taught to see every male, including the males with whom we are intimate, as potential rapists and murderers, then we cannot offer them our trust, and without trust there is no love.