Giving generously in romantic relationships, and in all other bonds, means recognizing when the other person needs our attention. Attention is an important resource.
Bell HooksThis rule of silence is upheld when the culture refuses everyone easy access even to the word โpatriarchy.โ Most children do not learn what to call this system of institutionaliz ed gender roles, so rarely do we name it in everyday speech. This silence promotes denial. And how can we organize to challenge and change a system that cannot be named?
Bell HooksIt is a distortion of the notion of romantic love to want to see obedience as the quintessential expression of respect.
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