None of us, irrespective of our sexual preference and/or practice, imagine that we can have an intimate relationship with a partner and always have seamless harmony. Indeed, most of us assume that once the โhoneymoonโ period is over differences will emerge and conflicts will happen. Positively, we also assume that we will be โsafeโ in those moments; that even if voices are raised and emotions expressed are intense, there will not be and should not be any abuse or any reason to be unsafe, and that the will to connect and communicate will prevail.
Bell HooksImagine how much easier it would be for us to learn how to love if we began with a shared definition.
Bell HooksRight now, for many Americans, class is being foregrounded like never before because of the economic situation. It doesn't mean that race doesn't matter, or gender doesn't matter, but it means that right now in many people's lives, in the lives of my own family members, people are losing jobs, insurance.
Bell HooksThe practice of love offers no place of safety. We risk loss, hurt, pain. We risk being acted upon by forces outside our control.
Bell HooksRemember, care is a dimension of love, but simply giving care does not mean we are loving.
Bell HooksWar in its essence is another form of capitalism. Wars make people rich - and they make a lot of people poor, and they take a lot of people's lives away from them. So much of the war that is happening is the attempt of one group to snatch the resources of another group.
Bell Hooks..Acts of appropriation are part of the process by which we make ourselves. Appropriating - taking something for oneโs own use - need not be synonymous with exploitation. This is especially true of cultural appropriation. The โuseโ one makes of what is appropriated is the crucial factor.
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