I think this is what people misunderstand about Martin Luther King saying to love your enemies. They think he was just using this silly little phrase, but what he meant was that as Black Americans we need to let our anger go, because holding on to it we hold ourselves down. We oppress ourselves by holding on to anger.
Bell HooksOf all the definitions of love that abound in our universe, a special favorite of mine is... โthe will to extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth.โ
Bell HooksIt's in the act of having to do things that you don't want to that you learn something about moving past the self. Past the ego.
Bell HooksA central theme of all about love is that from childhood into adulthood we are often taught misguided and false assumptions about the nature of love. Perhaps the most common false assumption about love is that love means we will not be challenged or changed.
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