If you do not know what you feel, then it is difficult to choose love; it is better to fall. Then you do not have to be responsible for your actions.

Is it more important that you, as a white male, read my work and learn from it, or what you call me? I think it's more important that you read my work, reflect on it, and allow it to transform your life and your thinking in some way.

When the feminist movement was at its zenith in the late 60's and early 70's, there was a lot of moving away from the idea of the person. It was: let's talk about the ideas behind the work, and the people matter less. It was kind of a gimmicky thing, but lots of feminist women were doing it. Many of us took the names of our female ancestors - bell hooks is my maternal great grandmother - to honor them and debunk the notion that we were these unique, exceptional women. We wanted to say, actually, we were the products of the women who'd gone before us.

All my life I have longed to have a loving relationship that would last a lifetime.

Remember, care is a dimension of love, but simply giving care does not mean we are loving.

I think we have to talk about educating the people for critical consciousness about what anarchy is.

Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.