Fear is blind. There are some options in it, but they're very limited as compared to the options available to the fearless mind.
Byron KatiePay close attention to the particular thoughts you use to deprive yourself of happiness.
Byron KatieIf your happiness depends on your children being happy, that makes them your hostages. So stay out of their business, stop using them for your happiness, and be your own happiness. And that way you are the teacher for your children: someone who knows how to live a happy life.
Byron KatieA lover of what is looks forward to everything: life, death, disease, loss, earthquakes, bombs, anything the mind might be tempted to call 'bad.' Life will bring us everything we need, to show us what we haven't undone yet. Nothing outside ourselves can make us suffer. Except for our unquestioned thoughts, every place is paradise.
Byron Katie