If you think the cause of your problem is 'out there,' you'll try to solve it from the outside. Take the shortcut: solve it from within.
Byron KatieI'll tell you that for me, one when someone used to say something that was true, one way I knew it was true was that I immediately felt defensive. I blocked it off, and I went to war with them in my mind and suffered all that goes with it. And they were only saying what was true.
Byron Katie