Feminism has had exactly the same problem that "political correctness" has had: people keep using the phrase without really knowing what it means.

I say this in the spirit of feminist encouragement, but I think I'm pretty hot. I've got all the facial features, facing the right way, at the right end, and you can always paint over the bad bits with makeup.

The problem with battling yourself is that even if you win, you lose.

A majority of women's magazines feature women who do amazing things, but then the article focuses on how she ruined it with her shoes.

But as the years went on, I realised that what I really want to be, all told, is a human. Just a productive, honest, courteously treated human.

For throughout history, you can read the stories of women who - against all the odds - got being a woman right, but ended up being compromised, unhappy, hobbled or ruined, because all around them, society was still wrong. Show a girl a pioneering hero - Sylvia Plath, Dorothy Parker, Frida Kahlo, Cleopatra, Boudicca, Joan of Arc - and you also, more often than not, show a girl a woman who was eventually crushed.

Never feel this bad again. Never come back to this place, where only a knife will do. Live a gentle and kind life. Don't do things that make you want to hurt yourself.