I have come to think that one of the most satisfying experiences I know — and also one of the most growth-promoting experiences for the other person — is just fully to appreciate this individual in the same way that I appreciate a sunset.

If I were to search for the central core of difficulty in people as I have come to know them, it is that in the great majority of cases they despise themselves, regarding themselves as worthless and unlovable.

Openness to all attitudes no matter how extreme or unrealistic they may seem.

When I look at the world I'm pessimistic, but when I look at people I am optimistic.

The facts are always friendly, every bit of evidence one can acquire, in any area, leads one that much closer to what is true.

When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, "Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it's like to be me".

The only person who cannot be helped is that person who blames others.