Women have traditionally deferred to the judgment of men although often while intimating a sensibility of their own which is at variance with that judgment.

For a man to be a man, did he have to be a soldier, or at least prepare himself for war? For a woman to be a woman, did she have to be a mother, or at least prepare herself to raise children? Soldiers and mothers were the sacrificial couple, honored by statues in the park, lauded for their willingness to give their lives to others.

Trust grows when babies and mothers establish that they can find each other again after the inevitable moments of losing touch. It is not the goodness of the mother or the relationship per se that is the basis for trust; it is the ability of mother and baby together to repair the breaks in their relationship that builds a safe house for love.

The hardest times for me were not when people challenged what I said, but when I felt my voice was not heard.

Theory can blind observation.

Everything about women is in perpetual crisis.

I find the question of whether gender differences are biologically determined or socially constructed to be deeply disturbing.