There's nothing wrong with being happy somewhere, even if it's the little pond you grew up in, as long as you are in fact comfortable vs. bored.

I have no quarrel with people who lack the skill or temperament to care for small children.

I believe in innocence until there's proof of guilt and all that.

There is a difference between your parents' not reporting to you everything they do and keeping secrets from you.

Instead of talking at each other about the non-business-related contact, talk to each other about your concerns about marriage. Listen a lot, too.

Don't freight your answers with any notions of what you're "supposed" to do, and just see where your feelings point you. It can feel weird to be so formal about it, but if you're not used to doing it, then there's no shame in retraining yourself.

There's nothing like a good family when you're really up a tree.