You need to make plans for your future, so plan your own future.

Almost no one can take on an entire future in one step, much less while reeling emotionally.

Make sure you have legal cover for what you're doing.

I actually recommend as little actual counting as possible in a life partnership. But, when there's a sense of injustice brewing between you, some counting is inevitable, and so my advice is to count using as broad a scope as possible. It's not just hours worked or chores done, either, and it's not even just about the household - it's a system of Whole Marriage Thinking. It's about hours worked, chores done, goals supported, emotional needs met, everything. What it all takes out of you, what it all gives back. It all factors in.

Waiting for someone to propose to you only passes the "Really, it's tradition!" sniff test when both of you think it's the man's job to propose and both of you think that's awesome.

You don't want to be with someone who is already not getting from you what he needs emotionally.

I believe in innocence until there's proof of guilt and all that.