Almost no one can take on an entire future in one step, much less while reeling emotionally.
Carolyn HaxPlan your own vacations when you want to, and plan a suitable combined vacation with this other family when you want to. If they freak out at your planning your own vacations as you see fit, then let them. Bowing to unreasonable demands because someone will make you pay emotionally if you don't is not a healthy option.
Carolyn HaxIf you're not sure what you want, then hold back from making plans or responding to invitations until you have a chance to think about it.
Carolyn HaxBodies and minds need breaks or the work suffers, this has been proven and reproven to the point where we don't even need to post links to support it.
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