To recommend that women become identical to men, would be simple reversal, and would defeat the whole point of androgyny, and for that matter, feminism: in both, the whole point is choice.

Androgyny suggests a spirit of reconciliation between the sexes.

Upon becoming fifty the one thing you can't afford is habit.

One hires lawyers as on hires plumbers, because one wants to keep one's hands off the beastly drains.

Androgyny suggests a spirit of reconciliation between the sexes; it suggests, further, a full range of experience…it suggests a spectrum upon which human beings choose their places without regard to propriety or custom.

Women, I believe, search for fellow beings who have faced similar struggles, conveyed them in ways a reader can transform into her own life, confirmed desires the reader had hardly acknowledge-desires that now seem possible. Women catch courage from the women whose lives and writings they read, and women call the bearer of that courage friend. [p. 138]

Is there any vanity greater than the vanity of those who believe themselves without it?