. . . a relationship has a momentum, it must change and develop, and will tend to move toward the point of greatest commitment.

one sank into the ancient sin of anomie when challenges failed.

the term 'androgyny' ... defines a condition under which the characteristics of the sexes, and the human impulses expressed by men and women, are not rigidly assigned. Androgyny seeks to liberate the individual from the confines of the appropriate.

What marks a writer is this: until she - or he, of course - writes down whatever happened, turns it into a story, it hasn't really happened, it hasn't shape, form, reality.

Normal is absolutely my least favorite word.

The sign of a good marriage is that everything is debatable and challenged; nothing is turned into law or policy. The rules, if any, are known only to the two players, who seek no public trophies.

Quoting, like smoking, is a dirty habit to which I am devoted.