The rare, delicate flavor of a life after retiring in one's sixties, whatever one has "retired" from, the pleasure I experienced beyond my job at Columbia, is a gift of life in the last decades. but it is not easily learned. . . . But sometimes, the only way to live is to get out, or at least seriously to contemplate getting out, doing the impossible,flinging the conventional tea.

The compulsion to find a lover and husband in a single person has doomed more women to misery than any other illusion.

Only a marriage with partners strong enough to risk divorce is strong enough to avoid it.

the term 'androgyny' ... defines a condition under which the characteristics of the sexes, and the human impulses expressed by men and women, are not rigidly assigned. Androgyny seeks to liberate the individual from the confines of the appropriate.

Upon becoming fifty the one thing you can't afford is habit.

You can flush my ashes down the toilet, for all I care.

Whether animals admit it or not, they and I communicate.