It's hard to be happy, and safe, and applauded in a miserable world.

The married are those who have taken the terrible risk of intimacy and, having taken it, know life without intimacy to be impossible.

In former days, everyone found the assumption of innocence so easy; today we find fatally easy the assumption of guilt.

Professors of literature collect books the way a ship collects barnacles, without seeming effort.

Normal is absolutely my least favorite word.

a revolutionary marriage ... [is] one in which both partners have work at the center of their lives and must find a delicate balance that can support both together and each individually.

The sign of a good marriage is that everything is debatable and challenged; nothing is turned into law or policy. The rules, if any, are known only to the two players, who seek no public trophies.