Only a marriage with partners strong enough to risk divorce is strong enough to avoid it.

Is there any vanity greater than the vanity of those who believe themselves without it?

a revolutionary marriage ... [is] one in which both partners have work at the center of their lives and must find a delicate balance that can support both together and each individually.

Thinking about profound social change, conservatives always expect disaster, while revolutionaries confidently anticipate utopia. Both are wrong.

Androgyny suggests a spirit of reconciliation between the sexes.

We women have lived too much with closure: "If he notices me, if I marry him, if I get into college, if I get this work accepted, if I get this job" -- there always seems to loom the possibility of something being over, settled, sweeping clear the way for contentment. This is the delusion of a passive life. When the hope for closure is abandoned, when there is an end to fantasy, adventure for women will begin.

One hires lawyers as on hires plumbers, because one wants to keep one's hands off the beastly drains.