You can flush my ashes down the toilet, for all I care.

One hires lawyers as on hires plumbers, because one wants to keep one's hands off the beastly drains.

Power is the ability to take one's place in whatever discourse is essential to action and the right to have one's part matter.

Women, I believe, search for fellow beings who have faced similar struggles, conveyed them in ways a reader can transform into her own life, confirmed desires the reader had hardly acknowledge-desires that now seem possible. Women catch courage from the women whose lives and writings they read, and women call the bearer of that courage friend. [p. 138]

. . . a relationship has a momentum, it must change and develop, and will tend to move toward the point of greatest commitment.

maturity ... is letting things happen.

one sank into the ancient sin of anomie when challenges failed.