People can find eroticism in relations with people whom they respect and whom they see as equals.

Feminism is built on believing women's accounts of sexual use and abuse by men.

Marxism teaches that exploitation and degradation somehow produce resistance and revolution. It's been hard to say why. What I've learned from women's experience with sexuality is that exploitation and degradation produce grateful complicity in exchange for survival. They produce self-loathing to the point of extinction of self, and it is respect for self that makes resistance conceivable.

People can find eroticism in relations with people whom they respect and whom they see as equals.

In all these situations, there was not enough violence against them to take it beyond the category of sex; they were not coerced enough.

Men, permitted to put words (and other things) in women's mouths, create scenes in which women desperately want to be bound, battered, tortured, humiliated, and killed.

If you want to know who is being hurt in this society, go see what is being done and to whom in pornography and then go look for them other places in the world.