Mainly because people were what they were and you couldn't change them. most of the time, they couldn't change themselves, even if they were desperate to be somebody different from who they were. So, best keep your distance.
Charles FrazierWe mark some days as fair, some as foul, because we do not see that the character of every day as identical
Charles FrazierThere was a redemption of some kind, he believed, in such complete fulfillment of a desire so long deferred.
Charles FrazierAnd then she thought that you went on living one day after another, and in time you were somebody else, your previous self only like a close relative, a sister or brother, with whom you shared a past. But a different person, a separate life. Certainly neither she nor Inman were the people they had been the last time they were together. And she believed maybe she liked them both better now.
Charles Frazier