The gentleman calls attention to the good points in others; he does not call attention to their defects. The small man does just the reverse of this.
ConfuciusThe virtuous will be sure to speak uprightly; but those whose speech is upright may not be virtuous.
ConfuciusHe who keeps danger in mind, is he who will rest safe in his seat; he who keeps ruin in mind, is he who will preserve his interests secure.
Confucius