Don't be concerned about others not appreciating you. Be concerned about your not appreciating others.
ConfuciusThe green reed which bends in the wind is stronger than the mighty oak which breaks in a storm.
ConfuciusLead the people with administrative injunctions and put them in their place with penal law, and they will avoid punishments but will be without a sense of shame. Lead them with excellence and put them in their place through roles and ritual practices, and in addition to developing a sense of shame, they will order themselves harmoniously
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