The superior man will watch over himself when he is alone. He examines his heart that there may be nothing wrong there, and that he may have no cause of dissatisfaction with himself.
ConfuciusWhen you see a good person, think of becoming like her/him. When you see someone not so good, reflect on your own weak points.
ConfuciusRate the task above the prize; will not the mind be raised? Fight thine own faults, not the faults of others; will not evil be mended?
ConfuciusWhen I am with others, they are my teachers. I can select their good points and follow them, and select their bad points and avoid them.
ConfuciusLead the people with administrative injunctions and put them in their place with penal law, and they will avoid punishments but will be without a sense of shame. Lead them with excellence and put them in their place through roles and ritual practices, and in addition to developing a sense of shame, they will order themselves harmoniously
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