My dad and mom were more like World War II-era parents, even though it was the 1960s, because they were both born in the '40s. They were young adults before the '60s even happened, and married, and already having kids. But by the time we were adolescents in the '70s, the whole culture was screaming at parents, "You're a good parent if you're open with your kids about sex." They attempted to be open with us about sex, and it made them want to die, and consequently, it made us want to die.
Dan SavageThe cultural expectation should be if there's infidelity, the marriage is more important than fidelity.
Dan SavageTo be gay is nothing to be proud of. It's in how you are gay that you have something to be proud of, considering the obstacles placed in your path if you are gay.
Dan SavageIโm searching for some exit poll data from California. Iโll eat my shorts if gay and lesbian voters went for McCain at anything approaching the rate that black voters went for Prop 8.
Dan SavageOne person simply canโt be all things to another person โ sexually or otherwiseโand unmet needs, unfulfilled desire, and unexplored possibilities are prices we pay to be in LTRs (long โterm relationships). Monogamous, polyamorous, Femdom, or whatever: All couples people walk around feeling a little unfulfilled. (Single people, too). Because no one gets everything they want.
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