We are always in a perpetual state of being created and creating ourselves. (p. 221)

Grief allows you to let go of something you have lost only when you begin to accept what you now have in its place. As our mind clings to the familiar, to our established expectations, we can become trapped in feelings of disappointment, confusion, anger, that create our own internal worlds of suffering.

At the most basic level, therefore, secure attachments in both childhood and adulthood are established by two individual's sharing a nonverbal focus on the energy flow (emotional states) and a verbal focus on the information-processing aspects (representational processes of memory and narrative) of mental life. The matter of the mind matters for secure attachments.

We are always in a perpetual state of being created and creating ourselves. (p. 221)

The amygdala, along with related areas..., plays a crucial role in coordinating perceptions with memory and behavior. These regions are especially sensitive to social interactions.

When we begin to know ourselves in an open and self-supportive way, we take the first step to encourage our children to know themselves

Too often we forget that discipline really means to teach, not to punish. A disciple is a student, not a recipient of behavioural consequences.