I always think to myself, being human, having crushes now, what is it about that person that I really want? What do they represent? More freedom? Someone to care for me more? It's never really about the person.

A good biography is the richest experience. When you watch a TV series together with someone is like being in a novel with them.

When you love a woman, you love yourself, and it's terrible really, how it seems perfectly possible to swallow the other. With a man you want to join, you want your ribs to connect like handcuffs. But with a woman if you swallow, she becomes you.

The problem with being a modern woman, I thought, as the front door swung wide, is that you have to pretend to be stronger than you are.

Everything was new, now I’m a junkie, I seem to need more severe doses of experience to feel anything.

I think unknowing is the most important theological idea for me. Unlearning the things you think you know.

You’ll see, there are a million ways to kill off the soft parts of yourself.