In any given moment, a man's growth is optimized if he leans just beyond his edge, his capacity, his fear. He should not be too lazy, happily stagnating in the zone of security and comfort. Nor should he push far beyond his edge, stressing himself unnecessarily, unable to metabolize his experience. He should lean just slightly beyond the edge of fear and discomfort. Constantly. In everything he does.

Chronic dissatisfaction is how you sense that you are living a lie.

Your suffering is shaped exactly by your refusal to open.

Live with your lips pressed against your fears, kissing your fears, neither pulling back nor aggressively violating them.

Men are terrified of a woman's depth of love and the energy that moves as a woman's sexuality and emotions. And, at the same time, men want nothing more in this life than to merge completely with a woman's devotional love and wild energy. Only as a man outgrows his fear can he handle a woman's tremendous love-energy without running. And only such a man is worthy of your devotional offering in a committed intimacy.

Anyone who separates being and doing is still enjoying separation.

Instant enlightenment is to give all your happiness away to others.