It seems important to find ways of reminding ourselves that most "familiarity" is meditated and delusive.
David Foster WallaceAnd I was -- this is just how I was afraid you'd take it. I knew it, that you'd think this means you were right to be afraid all the time and never feel secure or trust me. I knew it'd be "See, you're leaving after all when you promised you wouldn't." I knew it but I'm trying to explain anyway, okay? And I know you probably won't understand this either, but --wait-- just try to listen and maybe absorb this, okay? Ready? Me leaving is not the confirmation of all your fears about me. It is not. It's because of them.
David Foster WallaceYou are what you love. No? You are, completely and only, what you would die for without, as you say, the thinking twice.
David Foster WallaceThe other half is to dramatize the fact that we still "are" human beings, now. Or can be.
David Foster WallaceIf you can think of times in your life that youโve treated people with extraordinary decency and love, and pure uninterested concern, just because they were valuable as human beings. The ability to do that with ourselves. To treat ourselves the way we would treat a really good, precious friend. Or a tiny child of ours that we absolutely loved more than life itself. And I think itโs probably possible to achieve that. I think part of the job weโre here for is to learn how to do it
David Foster Wallace