We can actually reconstruct our past by examining what we think, say, feel, expect, believe, and do in an intimate relationship now.

There is a natural and inviolable tendency in things to bloom into whatever they truly are in the core of their being. All we have to do is align ourselves with what wants to happen naturally and put in the effort that is our part in helping it happen.

Humility means accepting reality with no attempt to outsmart it.

Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.

Once we understand that what happens beyond our control may be just what we need, we see that acceptance of reality can be our way of participating in our own evolution.

Early fear was felt cellularly and was indeed real. Defensive postures were necessary, but defenses generalize cellularly in adulthood and do not expire. It takes conscious work to undo them. Ironically, as long as we keep using defenses, we actually maintain the original force of the fear.

We were born with four words engraved on our bodies and in our hearts: Love me, hold me.