It seems to me more important actually to share someones distress than to use smooth words about it.
Dietrich BonhoefferTelling the truth ... is not solely a matter of moral character; it is also a matter of correct appreciation of real situations and of serious reflection upon them.
Dietrich BonhoefferChristian love draws no distinction between one enemy and another, except that the more bitter our enemy's hatred, the greater his need of love.
Dietrich Bonhoeffer